Time @ East Coast & My Thoughts....

Since I have not been spending the last few weekends with Marcus, I brought him to East Coast to play yesterday morning. Due to the traffic, he was almost asleep when we reached but the moment he saw the beach, he sprang to life again! He LOVES the beach! It will be much better when we shift back to Katong i'm sure cuz the beach will be like 5 mins away. Weather was pretty hot but he still thoroughly enjoyed himself! He played with the sand, looked at the waves come crashing in....I really enjoy the bonding time we spend together.

But come to think about it. Every parent spends this kinda bonding time with their kids when they were born...As a new parent, u are all fired up about your new found love that u just wanna spend every possible and available second with your kid...U think that will eventually equate to u being really close to your kid in future...u have the most amazing dream for your child, about what he or she can become and how wonderful they will be when they grow up...

Well...I have seen enough to know that we might just really be disappointed. All this bonding time u spend with them now may not mean they will be close to u in future, it may not mean they will be the most capable person in future and most importantly, does it mean that they will really respect u as a dad or mom...hopefully a great one...will theyheed your advice when they are teens and their frends influence them the wrong way...and will they be fillial to u when they grow old???

I teach so many students...I dare say I have helped many of them. Parents come to me and tell me to advise their child becuz they listen to me. I feel very hounoured yet very belittled at the same time whenever I hear all these. These parents do everything they can for their kids...work long hours to bring $$ back, fetch them to and from tuition, buy them nice MP3 players and ipods and...the list goes on...What am i in comparism in their kids eyes??? I do my best and advise them. As their teacher, i hope for the best for them but I really wonder...will Marcus listen to me when he grows older as well??? I do hope so...

I dun really know what I can hope for Marcus...I wouldn't say that we are very close cuz he only looks for the pp that never scold him and respond positively to his every request. (Being the 1st great grandchild and grandchild of both side makes him a real gem). It a challenge when all my seniors wanna do is to spoil him and all we as parents wanna do is to make sure he is not spoilt. I probably hope, like all other parents, that he grows up to treat others and himself with respect...